Stuff What Boys Can Do

The other night, my bear asked if he could discuss with me this post, where I talk about (among other things) the victim-blaming ramifications of telling a woman to change her behavior to avoid rape. He was conflicted. On the one hand, he totally agreed with me. It is not a woman’s fault if she’s [...]

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Reaction Part 2

I wanted to clarify some things from this post and the relating comments thread. Again, I don’t mean this to respond to any particular individual or blog I saw that linked me, because I still don’t like call-and-response blogging (though I feel like I’m doing too much of that in the comments, and might back [...]

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Search terms of the day

“bitchy wives set boundaries”
“fat women raped movies”

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That Last Post

This story illustrates nicely the damned-if-you-do social scenario women find themselves in that I was trying to describe in that last post.
I’m sure if the woman had instead chosen to be meek and shame-faced, and had been willing to quietly accept whatever condescension the officer wanted to pitch her way, coupled with any legal consequences [...]

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Okay, so I have been drinking

This blog was recently featured on the Carnival of Sexual Violence; specifically, this entry, about losing a friend due to talking about rape. Since then, some other folk have linked me, and my blog is now exploding on another entry about a similar topic. As a result (also, there is bourbon involved) I’ve spent the [...]

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