Harriet’s Sordid Past

Dear Harriet.
What happens when the state one used to reside in during the shadiest period of one’s life has an online database wherein one can (if inclined) look up the criminal offenses committed by ex-friends?
Love,
Harriet
 
Dear Harriet,
An excellent question! In said situation, one will likely discover details of ex-friend’s lives that one did not wish to [...]

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Dunbar

I used to do a lot of news and political blogging, back when I was in an abusive relationship. Flint was all about politics, so it was a safe place to channel all my fear and hope and need for intellectual stimulation. It was also a really easy way to deflect questions about why I [...]

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Stuff What Boys Can Do

The other night, my bear asked if he could discuss with me this post, where I talk about (among other things) the victim-blaming ramifications of telling a woman to change her behavior to avoid rape. He was conflicted. On the one hand, he totally agreed with me. It is not a woman’s fault if she’s [...]

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Fighting Back

Having a midnight internet trance. Clicking through to links that linked that linked that linked to my posts. Reading awfully sad things. Stories from survivors who didn’t “fight back,” and struggle with what that means to them, and what it means to others. “Fighting back” always seems to mean something physical, audible, or legal.
Personal resolution:
To [...]

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Reaction Part 2

I wanted to clarify some things from this post and the relating comments thread. Again, I don’t mean this to respond to any particular individual or blog I saw that linked me, because I still don’t like call-and-response blogging (though I feel like I’m doing too much of that in the comments, and might back [...]

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